Thursday, June 11, 2009

oh, happy day!

We did it!!!

As of this afternoon, we are DONE with another GREAT school year!

I am ecstatic and oh-so-proud of my kiddos.

And now, it's time to go out to dinner to CELEBRATE!

Whether you homeschool or lovingly support your children through public/private school, I'm rejoicing with you on another incredible year! May your summer be full of sunshine, fun and making sweet memories!


Wednesday, June 10, 2009

judging others = problems for myself

"'Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.'" Luke 6:37 (Spoken by Jesus of Nazareth)

Ah, the lessons just keep coming, Friends. Yesterday, our family dentist sent us back to the orthodontist. This time, however, my daughter Sara was the patient. She's four.

Since we last visited Dr. D., I've weighed my different options. Should we find a new orthodontist? Preferably one who shares my belief that braces aren't a fashion accessory to be granted to a pre-teen because she thinks they look "cool."

Great idea. However, we live in a town where Dr. D. happens to be the only ortho with an office here.

You might ask why my first thought wasn't to just share my concerns with said orthodontist and try to find common ground. Great idea. :-) Only I don't like conflict and confrontation.

Ah, but the good news/bad news is that God knows this and wants me to learn to be a strong communicator. Remember speaking the truth in love?

And I knew this. I knew that leaving the situation unresolved was like a sliver in my spirit. It was just festering and making me more irritated.

Turns out there was a good reason it was irritating my spirit. A very good reason. Sin does that.

So, before our appointment, I wrote a list of all the things I felt needed to be done yesterday. Next to "take Sara to ortho," I added "confront Dr. D." Sounds ominous, doesn't it? (It did to ME!)

The appointment went well, the ortho was great with Sara and I found that I really liked her. She shared her advice regarding Sara's repaired cleft-palate and then asked how I felt about it.

This is where I start to giggle aboutthe insanity of my entire situation. It's actually quite funny, if not totally humbling. Deep breath...are you ready for my true confession?

Those very things I was thinking about this medical professional? Well, my Sweet Friends, she was thinking the very same thing about me!!!

Isn't that just the way judgement works? Guess that's why God tells us not to judge. Sigh.

You see, Dr. D thought I was bringing my FOUR year old in to get braces NOW because I wanted to "fix" her ASAP. The reality was that she has a tooth growing out of the middle of her palate that she said was hurting. (No wonder! Teeth aren't supposed to grow there.) Anyhow, I think she felt like I was unhappy with my beautiful little girl's smile.

Nothing could be further from the truth! I adore her precious little face because of her scars. I won't even try to guess what a horrible person she must have thought I was. :-( And for good reason!

(Bear with me, I don't know how to explain this without all the gory details.)

At Sara's last check-up, our cranio-facial team told me that if the tooth was hurting Sara that our dentist could pull it. I talked to our dentist who checked it out. Turns out that it was no longer hurting Sara and could stay.

But, our dentist is very thorough and he wanted our ortho to confirm his decision. The only problem was that he didn't communicate any of that to our orthodontist! Apparently, he didn't communicate his concerns about Chelsea's teeth either.

So, here I was thinking (aka "judging") this poor woman for her advice to my oldest daughter; when all along she was thinking what a nut job I was for trying to get her to put braces on both of my girls. Whether they needed them or not. OH MY.


Before I came to this sad conclusion, I was starting to chicken out from my "confrontation." I thought that the appointment had gone well (check that off my "to-do" list) and that there was no need to stir the pot. It could wait.

But the Holy Spirit started pressing on me and I knew that it couldn't wait. For whatever reason, God wanted me deal with the situation and not put it off. He always knows what's best for us, doesn't He? :-)

I shared with the doctor that while we want to do everything we can medically
(orthodonically?) for all of our children, we were in no rush to slap braces on them now.

Dr. D immediately smiled and thanked me for sharing my philosophy with her because she felt the same way(!) No kidding.

Everything suddenly became crystal clear. The good, the bad and the very ugly. Laid bare.

Ah, the dangers of passing judgement. Didn't I just learn that same lesson?!?

I was relieved on so many different levels, but mostly because I felt God pulling that festering sliver of sin out of my heart. I am so thankful for His grace.

The words Jesus spoke are true. When we judge, we are judged.

I think I need to follow-up with Dr. D and send her a card. I owe her an apology.

I still feel nauseated by the way our country chooses to live materialistically (especially how I live.)

However, in the future, I will be more careful about pointing my finger without knowing all the details. (And really, how can we unless we are living inside the other person's head?!?)

I am LIVING A BLESSED LIFE today, because my God loves me enough to speak the truth in love.

Eating humble pie,

Monday, June 8, 2009

weekend adventure

exploring Camp 18 after a yummy (BIG) breakfast

"Best Sisters Forever" (a sweet song Sara sings)
Liam already enjoying his birthday adventure

the Ivey 3 (soon to be Ivey 4)

didn't she used to be small?!?

hiding-go-seek (walkie-talkie-style)

in his own world of adventure

lookin' down on Daddy-O'

lookin' up at Daddy-O'

finally a pic of the man behind the camera (and his posse)

a cool perspective

sweet face

dandelions for Mommy

celebrating a winning day!

totally in his element

breathtaking view

gotta have a jeep

thankfully there was no water in her squirt gun!

beauty girl (playing army) ;-)

awesome view

our bikes were more worn out than we were!

in on the fun

what's an army game without a rose here or there?

happy s'mores girls

and then came the sticky s'mores birthday kisses

and lots and lots of giggles

and more sticky kisses (and giggles)

a very, very Happy (& tired) Birthday Boy!

And at the end of a very fun-filled, adventurous day, we all agreed that we are LIVING A BLESSED LIFE!

Full of joy,