Wednesday, June 3, 2009

celebrating 14 years!!!

"Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken." (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)

I wanted to post one of our wedding photos, but alas, that was "back in the day." You know, before we went digital? :-) So alas, you are blessed with a view we enjoyed during our honeymoon, in Negril, Jamaica.

Geoff received a very generous inheritance that paid for our wedding, an incredible honeymoon and a down-payment on our house. Not a bad way to start a marriage off, eh? God is good!

So, today we are celebrating our first 14 years of marriage together!

Indeed, God is SO good.

We certainly had our share of trials and testing. It is a testament to God and His mercy and grace that we are still together. It is only because of His unconditional love for us that our marriage withstood the test of time and endured the sin of selfishness.

Oh my. We were so into ourselves. We had much to learn about what a healthy relationship looked like. We needed to learn what true forgiveness was. How to receive it and how to grant it. We had a lot of healing to do. We had a lot of dying to self to do. We had a lot-of-a lot! :-) Seriously.

As Geoff and I look back over the years of struggle, we feel so humbled by God's love for us. And, we are so thankful for each other. I can't imagine living a day on this earth without Geoff as my best friend, my husband, my partner, my love. He balances me out and is such a FUN companion.

The more time we spend together, the more peaceful our relationship has become. Had we not experienced the struggles, we would have been unable to really enjoy the blessings of today.

We have walked through some intense fires. As individuals, as a couple and as a family. God is faithful.

I think the biggest healing our marriage experienced was when we finally learned to stop trying to change each other. God was patiently waiting for us to drop our hacksaws and learn to put our focus on Him instead. We learned to allow God to change us.

Ah, the road of least resistance. It can be a scary thing to do, but truly, once we surrendered ourselves and each other to God, the miracles of transformation began to take place. It was incredible. Amazing. Breathtaking. (But never easy!)

We are so grateful to the friends and mentors that God has brought into our lives over the years. They have taught us much through their words of encouragement and examples of love and commitment.

We have learned so much and look forward to seeing where God takes us next on our journey in marriage and life. And, all that He has to yet to teach us.

(A note to my Man: Geoff, I love you forever. I'm so thankful for your love, support and patience. I can't wait for the adventures we still have ahead of us!!!)

We have friends who are struggling in marriage and I know we all are aware of those in the media who are struggling as well. Maybe you are, my Friend.

While I don't know all the details, nor do I have all of the answers, I do want to encourage you to keep pressing into the Lord. Please don't give up on the good plan He has for your life.

God never mistakes and He will always bring us through the trials. His ways are good and He is for us!

On a side note, Geoff and I spent our anniversary morning working on our adoption paperwork. We started off getting our fingerprints done for Homeland S*curity, went to the bank and wore out a pen or two notarizing lots of docs, and then had more fingerprints done for the State of OR. Oh, and we did sneak in some yummy donuts and a couple o'Mexican Mochas to celebrate our relationship!

Celebrating love and commitment is definitely a part of LIVING A BLESSED LIFE!

Elated and in love,

3 comments:

Kelli Gray said...

You certainly have it bad...for these great Loves of yours. Its funny I can hardly tell the difference between your love for your husband and the Fathers love for him.....its profound beauty!!
Your such a delight :-)

Chantelle said...

Happy Anniversary!!!

Becky Ryder said...

Happy Anniversary! I have many more years before I hit the "14th"! Here's too many more years for you both, I can see you being great-great-grandparents!